Or maybe I should be more specific and say non attachment TO parenting.
When I was in my mid-twenties I worked with a woman who seemed to practice this non attachment to parenting. She was, and I presume still is, a great mom. And she was also great to herself. She was compassionate with her kids, and was available to them when they needed help. But she was able to see their problems as theirs. To be fair, at that time her daughter was finishing college and her son was finishing high school. Maybe she worried more when they were little…. but I doubt it.
Anyway, I have kept that attitude in mind since I became a mother. My kids are still too little to be really unattached to their problems. I still have to wipe buts and am happy to dry tears. But I keep it mind for the future when I’ll have to step back and let them fail.
I’ve discovered another way to apply non attachment to my parenting and that is to the objects are no longer needed. Most recently I’ve had to detach from my maternity clothes. I was surprised how hard it was to give them up. I am lucky because I was able to pass them onto a wonderful first time mother-to-be. She’s sent me photos of her in the clothes and it warms my heart to see that they are still appreciated. I suppose this is what Marie Kondo was getting at.
Other areas of non-attachment are comparing myself to other parents, letting go of trying to get my son to eat vegetables, making use of all the toys in the house and so many more.
I keep my attachment sheers on me at all times because there isn’t a day when I don’t need them. They keep me going and happy for attachments hold me back, but letting go with love allows me to move forward with a smile.