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Non-attachment Parenting

Or maybe I should be more specific and say non attachment TO parenting.

When I was in my mid-twenties I worked with a woman who seemed to practice this non attachment to parenting.  She was, and I presume still is, a great mom.  And she was also great to herself.  She was compassionate with her kids, and was available to them when they needed help.  But she was able to see their problems as theirs.  To be fair, at that time her daughter was finishing college and her son was finishing high school.  Maybe she worried more when they were little…. but I doubt it.

Anyway, I have kept that attitude in mind since I became a mother.  My kids are still too little to be really unattached to their problems.  I still have to wipe buts and am happy to dry tears.  But I keep it mind for the future when I’ll have to step back and let them fail.

I’ve discovered another way to apply non attachment to my parenting and that is to the objects are no longer needed.  Most recently I’ve had to detach from my maternity clothes.  I was surprised how hard it was to give them up.  I am lucky because I was able to pass them onto a wonderful first time mother-to-be.  She’s sent me photos of her in the clothes and it warms my heart to see that they are still appreciated.  I suppose this is what Marie Kondo was getting at.

Other areas of non-attachment are comparing myself to other parents, letting go of trying to get my son to eat vegetables, making use of all the toys in the house and so many more.

I keep my attachment sheers on me at all times because there isn’t a day when I don’t need them.  They keep me going and happy for attachments hold me back, but letting go with love allows me to move forward with a smile.

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My first Post

What to say?

Much of my day is spent with little kids.  MY little kids.  Still, 5 and 3 year olds aren’t really much for in depth conversation, so I also spend a lot of time talking in my head, and responding in my head.  So, I think, I’ll write it all down in a blog post!!  And then I sit down and the chatter goes quiet.  My fingers are frozen.  I stare at the screen.

I decided to set a timer and just write.  Here it is.  My first attempt at putting something out there.  I’ve decided to at least try to steer this post in some direction, and that direction is Yoga.

That chatter that I spoke of early is usually themed around Yoga.  I recently graduated with my 500 hour Teacher Training certificate, which was a real rebirth in my life of Yoga.  I’ll save the details of that experience for another post – can’t give it all away in one!!  My intention with these posts is to express my thoughts and experiences through the lens of Yoga.

It might be Asana, texts, documentaries or podcasts (or more!).  I will explore all things Yoga and write about it.

I do not fancy myself a writer.  I write as a creative outlet, much like one who paints for the fun of.  Also, I hope to use my writings as a way to increase focus.  And, lets throw this on the pile, I will use this platform as a way to reflect on my own thoughts, and see what I can do with that information.

OK – so the scary part is done, I’ve put something out there.

Much love,

YoGail